5 Reasons We Schedule Vacations for Our Marriage

Life gets loud in our house. Between parenting kids at different stages, running businesses, and staying connected to our faith, it’s easy to let quality time slip. That’s why we’re sharing the reasons we schedule vacations for our marriage—because without them, the connection suffers. Whether it’s a beach trip or a one-night staycation, that intentional time away makes all the difference.

This post breaks down the reasons we schedule vacations for our marriage – and why you might want to start doing the same.

5 Reasons We Schedule Vacations for Our Marriage

1. 1. We focus on each other. No distractions, no chaos-just us. Getting away allows us to step out of our busy lives and actually see each other again.
   2. We stay motivated. When a trip is coming up, we eat better, save smarter, and push through the hard days. It becomes something to work toward, together.
   3. We have something to look forward to. Even knowing we have a two-night getaway planned gives us a boost. A countdown on the calendar brings hope on tough days.
   4. We’re forced to slow down. Life is nonstop, especially in a blended family with businesses and kids. Vacations press the pause button and make us breathe.
   5. We get inspired. Our best ideas often come during travel-whether we’re on a road trip or watching the waves. It’s a time to dream, plan, and talk about what’s next.

Why It Matters for Our Marriage

For us, a “mini vacation” might be as simple as a Tuesday–Thursday trip. Just two nights where we check out from the world and check in with each other.

And yes, we have different travel styles. Patrick once stayed in a hostel for a marathon trip (and would do it again). Tamekia? Not a chance.

When it’s just the two of us, we try to stretch a little more—nicer accommodations, better food, less rushing. Not because we need fancy, but because we value the time. That’s the real luxury.

Planning Ahead Helps Us Stay Connected

Tamekia loves having something on the calendar—it’s like a light at the end of the tunnel when life gets overwhelming. Patrick likes having something to train for and focus on. Together, planning our next trip keeps us connected and hopeful.

We try to set a quarterly budget for travel. Even if the details change, knowing that time away is a priority makes everything else feel more manageable.

More Than Just a Break—It’s Mental Reset

Getting out of your everyday environment can change your whole mindset. A simple trip can clear your head, lift your mood, and shift your perspective. And it’s not just our opinion—research shows that taking vacations together enhances relationship satisfaction and intimacy. Whether you’re strolling a beach or exploring a new small town, shared experiences build connection, laughter, and long-term memories.

We truly believe you don’t need to spend a lot to benefit from a getaway. A local staycation, a quick road trip, even a day out with no distractions—if it gives you time to focus on your relationship, it’s worth it.